Years resolutions - Meaningless?
going to (insert one of the following common resolutions)
out the trash
speaking, no you're not. Great goals to be sure, and despite
what it sounds like, I don't want to discourage anyone from
trying to achieve them. I want to encourage people to make
realistic goals that they are ready to achieve. With a 90
to 95% failure rate for achieving new years resolutions something
is obviously not right.
someone invited you to make an investment that had a 90 to
95% risk of losing your money, how willing would you be to
put hard earned dollars into it? Exactly. How would you view
people who get really excited about putting their money into
such an investment? What if they made claims like, "oh
yeah, I'm going to double my money on this one." Would
you see them as bullish go getters, or as disillusioned?
what if there was a great investment opportunity that had
a legitimate guaranteed return, and paid dividends immediately.
Would you say, "well I don't need to benefit from that
just yet, instead I'm going to waist some more money first,
then I'll make the investment on January 1st." Seems
don't really like addressing health and fitness new years
resolutions - most of the time they're phony. It's kind of
like dealing with a door to door sales person; you don't really
want to answer the door and listen to their canned sales pitch.
If you do open the door it will most likely be to get them
off your property.
years resolutions are an overt expression of not facing reality.
There is a thin veneer of feigned sincerity for turning over
a new leaf. It's easy to get high on the sensationalism that
goes with the new years resolution, but let's face it; if
someone is waiting until January 1st to eat healthy, lose
weight, get fit etc., what they're really saying is they don't
give a rats rear end about it but it makes them feel good
or they think it makes them look good to talk about these
eating better etc. was truly a priority for us, we would already
be doing it. That's what happens when we've passed the fence
sitting stage - we put our thoughts into actions.
you concede the BS and drop the new years resolution, you're
ready to start getting down to business.
you lament making a change today and say that you need one
more weekend of debauchery to "get it out of your system"
before making positive changes then you're not ready.
that sounds negative? It isn't. What is negative is a person
lying to themselves and not following through.
what can be done?
ignore January 1st, or any date, as the specific date to start
making changes. Putting off change is an overt expression
of not really wanting to change so if you don't want to change
then don't. I wish people would change because their lives
would be better than ever imagined. It's important that people
have convinced themselves that they want it.
passed the contemplation stage and really feeling an internally
motivated desire to adopt a healthy lifestyle, it's time to
make that change.
to drop 20 pounds or 100 pounds and get washboard abs is great.
But if it isn't accepted that achieving this requires a permanent
change in lifestyle then forgetaboutit. Avoid being disillusioned
with superficial goals (like washboard abs) and consider the
overall benefits of healthy living as part of the reward.
the goals realistic, and give yourself lot's of time to achieve
them. This isn't about a four week boot camp, it's about living
with habits that you can do every day for the rest of your
life. Retaining a sense of reward with the old bad habits
while introducing new habits wont work, and is one of the
culprits of failure in the switch to healthy living.
single most important variable for success in making the change
is a disassociation of reward with the old habits and developing
a sense of reward with the new habits. This takes practice,
a lot of practice.
whole new years thing is a dog and pony show. Contemplate
adopting a healthy lifestyle, and when you're ready, do it;
don't wait for new years.
2007 Cris LaBossiere Rhino Fitness